Domestic Violence

The most eulogized heroes from all countries are those who have led and won rebellions against injustice and suppression, and fought for freedom and human rights. However, there is no mention in history of numerous humans who have battled alone with familiar enemies – within the precincts of their own homes.

These battles are usually fought without troops and weapons by meek women, with few children in tow. Aggrieved parties in most domestic violence cases are women, due to the vulnerability of their position in a patriarchal system of society. Men, children and old people can also become regular victims of domestic violence in some instances.

Victims of domestic violence have to push against the closed mind-set of society, besides handling their own pain and trauma. They are usually watched by curious eyes, and condemned by wagging tongues – instead of being helped out of a violent situation by friends and kin – because few have the courage the transgress the limits of another’s home. There is always a (tacit) closed door policy guarding all situations of domestic violence, and the victim feels too guilty to bring out the outrage in open.

All victims of domestic violence should be reassured, that if they fight for their freedom – the struggle will be worthy and meritorious. To help self and one’s children escape a life of violence and indignity is not a sin. A brave woman sets an example by fighting violation of human rights in her home, and inspires other victims of domestic violence to do the same. Her efforts are in accordance to the spirit of community good because domestic violence is prevalent all over human society. Counselors and psychologists all over the world continuously exhort victims of domestic violence to seek help by talking about their problems. Any battle against domestic violence cannot be fought alone and needs lots and lots of help from relevant people.

It is often seen that victims of domestic violence feel ashamed to ask for help. This is due to the isolation and insults perpetrated on them continuously in their own homes. Loss of confidence and self worth is the obvious result of living with bad and violent relationships. It is important for the victim of domestic violence to remember that it is the abuser who is to blame for their condition, and not themselves. Unacceptable behavior deserves to be countered. One can turn for help to understanding friends, relatives, neighbors and church community services, when trapped in violent domestic situations. More and more people are seen becoming sympathetic towards victims of domestic violence now.

It is advisable to identify sensitive people who one feels are smart and understanding, and also not decline to give and receive help to and for victim of domestic violence. Help can be given and received in the form of an employment opportunity, a listening ear, an afternoon given to baby sit a child, a trip with a victim to the police or the social support group, counseling and sharing or just a round of the market with battered souls. It is also important for victims of domestic violence to become aware of their legal rights.